Do Less. Take Time to Rest

So many balls in the air

Sighting, tracking, predicting, feeling, moving


As the balls are caught and layed in their temporary resting place

Swirling, breathing, grounding, hurting, sitting

It’s strange how it is when you pause that you notice what aches. Of course, I understand the evolutionary case.

Yet, we are in an age where we do not stop

A mom of an infant recently told me she is still busy, yet it is a different kind of busy. It centers on her child, rather the many, many students she was previously teaching.

She was busy and perhaps more significantly she was present

I don’t know how often I can say that. I’m focused on a task and can reach a state of flow. Yet, other times a lot of projects pull my attention. There’s no clear way to go and Im stuck in the paradox of too many choices. I prioritize and push through, yet there’s no doubt it’s a push.

I want to discover the right number of balls to juggle to be focused in the act, challenged by the task and connected to each ball that reaches my hand.

I understand this number is not fixed. It changes with the space and effort I give it.

We have limits and there are cases of too much of a good thing

So let us be mindful of what we are juggling at home, work and play. This old analogy may have new insights to bring.

For one, don’t just “do more”

Do less and take time to rest

Before picking up the balls and skillfully juggling, creating and collaborating once again

Mental Health Advocacy

Today is Let’s Talk Day.
A day dedicated to mental health awareness.
Watch the 2-min video below for your on how we can make changes towards a healthier society for all:
Are you interested in supporting a loved one with their mental health?
Here are a few tips:
1) Listen – really listen. Create a supportive, patient and empathetic space to be with them where they are.
2) Educate Yourself – caring for our mental health is a skill like any other. Use reputable sources to discover evidence-based strategies to improve and support mental health.
3) Research Local Mental Health Supports – not all supports are created equal. There is still more regulation and oversight needed in this area. Yet, the right supports can make all the difference. Research the variety of supports available. Ensure they have the proper credentials and professional affiliations. Remember what is supportive, may not be geared towards “mental health.” Joining the gym, going to a community-oriented club, reconnecting with friends builds up social supports.
4) Have a Growth Mindset – mental health recovery is not linear. Learn alongside your loved one through the ups and downs. It is not static. It requires tremendous personal growth. Be willing to grow alongside them (ex. emotional awareness, personal insight, signs of being well/unwell etc.)
5) Recognize When To Share and When Not To – Don’t try to “fix” or be too quick to give advice. This can alienate others. At the same time, be willing to share when you are concerned, give space for their feedback and try to move forward together.
If you don’t know what to do. Many times just being present and showing you care makes a far greater difference than you think.
Also, there is a Mental Health First Aid training provided by professional and community-based organizations. Check out your local area for upcoming training.



Sitting in silence while two hearts beat can be beautifully gratifying

Yet silence is not always so warm; there can be a chill distance in the air that is hard to give shape or form

Silence is vulnerable and uncertain, yet to a degree, it is a necessity of the paths we are on

What’s your Kryptonite?

We all have weaknesses

It’s characteristic across humanity

The question is can you see yours with clarity?

Can you describe what can make your steps wobble or go off course?

It’s not an easy question to answer

We want to know our power and our driving forces

At times ours strengths without reigns can become weaknesses

As I said, this is not an easy question to answer

It is worth discovering and distinguishing

The weaknesses that need to be trained and strengthened

The weaknesses that are inherently toxic and need to be avoided

The weaknesses that grow subtly and need to be nipped in the bud

Some weaknesses are like kryptonite

Recognize it, name it and stay far from it

Hone your self-awareness to train your strengths, support your weaknesses, avoid what is toxic and makes you weak

Life is not a linear road

Some of the greatest knowledge you will ever know is about you

Who you are

Who and how you love

Your skills, talents and weaknesses

Open up your eyes to see all of you

Being blind or making a disguise doesn’t truly hide your kryptonite

Recognize it, name it and stay far from it

Be mindful in each step you take strong and true

When you stumble, be mindful

Take time to reflect on this too even if it is the last thing you want to do

Writing a Collaborative Story

Putting down the pen for awhile can be hard

You want to see this story through, yet there is another writer beside you

It’s easy for your mind to wander through the many possibilities before you have the opportunity to see the words on the page

It’s far more uncomfortable and uncertain than writer’s block for you know how to untangle that knot

No, for this you simply need to put your pen down for now and wait to see what comes round

Love is a story written by two hearts listening, speaking and when truly ready writing the story of love down sharing the raw beauty that’s been found

Reimagining the Disney Love Story


I’ve been imagining my “prince charming” since I was nine years old
I read fairy tale after fairy tale just waiting to see how things would unfold
And don’t even get me start on the Disney movies
I have seen plenty – Mulan was my favourite in case you were wondering

While my understanding of love has expanded beyond books and fantasies
I am still taken aback by how these childhood tales have stayed with me
So I’m going to pull up my socks and edit these love stories

First and foremost, love is not about rescuing anybody
Not me and not some make-believe prince charming
If someone needs rescuing, it is not the time for romance
It’s time to sit this dance out and do the work to create a far healthier route
Love is not about rescuing
It is about intentionally seeing whether you can build up the trust
So you can safely put your sword down
To be seen for who are
To be loved for who are
To be together as you are

Second, there will be doubt
You do not always “just know”
No matter how deep your love goes
Love needs care, honesty and courage
Love takes work
It’s not just magical glances and sunsets
That’s okay because it’s real
You are loving someone you can touch and feel
Someone who is both incredible and flawed
Just like you
This is part of how you know it’s true

Third, you need to do more than just look at each other
Really, how many stories revolved around loving glances?
You cannot truly love someone without knowing them, really knowing them
Knowing someone this closely is uncomfortable at times
Yet it is in being known and accepted that true comfort arises
Love is a journey
A journey often skewed to the days of love’s beginning as in your childhood stories
Stories that are finely crafted just to the point where love begins
And in that moment the scene ends
Love is a journey that does not fade as the sunsets
It rises with each new day
There is great discovery
You learn together; grow together
Like life, love can be messy
Yet, love is messy like the beauty of an abstract painting
Beyond perfectly dressed princes and princesses
Being loved for who are as you are is the greatest gift

Fourth, love is not enough
I know, I know, I would really like to believe the Beatles song too
But, it is just not true
Love needs space and care to grow
Two people can love each other so and be going in far different directions
That’s why you need to truly know each other
Know each other’s beliefs, values and dreams
You need to have tough, vulnerable conversations
You need to trust that you will be able to love again
If you’ve discovered a difference you cannot both see through
Love can be heartbreaking
Thankfully, our hearts are resilient beyond our imagining
Yes, love is risky
Yet, all it takes is one

Somehow I think this poem could keep going on
There are so many things I hope will change about how we speak of love
Love is not perfect or tidy
Love is both beautiful and messy
Love is not a cure
Love is healing and restoring
Love is a beginning
Each day, each hour, each moment
Choosing to care whole-heartedly for another human being
Just as they are
Receiving the whole-hearted care from another human being
Just as you are
That’s what love is to me
At least that’s what I remind myself when I get lost in a childhood story

Heart to Heart Advocacy

Our stories can inspire the changes we seek.

Yet, systems and companies do not have ears to hear nor eyes to see.

May we share our stories with people like you and me with hearts that beat and minds that imagine and think.

Done truthfully, courageously and collectively this can create the waves of change we seek.

So, what is one of your stories?

Whose ears will it greet?

Let’s have the courage to stand face to face when we advocate.

Not only out of principle, but from the belief in the decency of our fellow human beings.

Trust builds.

Fear breaks.

So start with those you trust

One story at a time

You may find a whole new story unfolding as perspectives intertwine

It’s messier than a letter.

Yet our words resonate far deeper.

Shaking the Broken Tapes on Replay


That’s not who I am
That’s not how I live
Look into my eyes
And do not ask again

To truly see into my eyes
You’ll need to listen close
To the stories I love most
And press stop on the tape
You keep repeating on replay

When other’s stories start creeping in
That’s when my self-awareness cannot be dimmed
We need to remember our stories cherished within
Even when we’re told the same stories again and again

Repetition does not make them true
Not for me and I sure hope not for you

It is in knowing who we are
That allows these hollow stories
To be removed from our playlist
For if they remain on replay
The skewed sight is heartbreak

For this is who I am
This is how I live
Look into my eyes
There will be no surprise
Nor a need to ask again

I tell the stories that shape me
Stories of resilience, kindness, compassion and creativity
Stories that connect and intertwine our lives

I also tell stories that were once so limiting
Stories that skewed who I thought I could become
Stories we all need to leave behind
To be the someone we know we can be

For me, I gathered up my courage and dove headfirst
Into the playlist of stories
Sorting the ones that built me up
The ones that rang true
From those I wanted nothing to do with

And when I found there were stories
That were not truly from friends, family or those I trust
Stories that were simply broken tapes
Left on replay

It was heartbreaking and liberating

Stories I had heard so many times
I once thought they were mine
Or at the very least had some relevance to my life

Not so
Not even close

When I tell stories
I intentionally set it with the backdrop of our common humanity
Is this not the story of so much of the stigma we face today?
A broken tape left on replay

I am not talking about robots or conspiracy theories
I am talking about stories that are skewed
Yet are repeated in our homes, in our classrooms and on the news
Stories we need to unglue
For they paint such a limited view of me and you

So whatever that story, that replayed tape is for you
Shake it off
Hold on to the ones that help you stay strong and true

Be aware of the stories you share
Own your stories as yours
Not simply a cultural cocktail

Stories are powerful things
Stories shape our lives as human beings
When society is so influenced by fear
Be aware of the stories you draw near

As we greet this new year
Recognize those stories that build you up
Stories that remind you who you truly are

As for the stories of fear played on repeat
While they don’t just disappear
You can decide that they have no place here

For we know who we are
We have come so far
We have our own stories to share
With eyes to see and hearts to care

It’s time to do away with tapes on replay
And speak
Put away the script and speak

Speak your story
Be your story
Hear our stories

Our stories inspire
Our stories breakthrough stigma and prejudice
Our stories show us how to love deeper and reach higher

Be your story today
Speak your story today
Hear our stories today
We will see change