There are times when I find myself unexplicable upset by another’s behaviour
I’ve come to recognize it is an automatic reaction for not aligning with culturally formed norms that are often best thrown out the door
He is gentle
He is kind
He is trustworthy, reliable and dedicated
One of the most gentle and kind person I have met
I am lucky to have him by my side
I just need to shake off superficial expectations that are often placed on “Mr Right”. And instead hold on with all my might to his genuine character
For truly it is someones character – the real core of the person – that you partner with
Not a title, salary or degree
For we all know people who have those in spades yet lack virtuous character traits
Nor physical traits which shift and vhange with time
True partnership is one of being connected heart soul and mind and that is where character is all intertwined
And so I will cherish his beloved character and learn release my culturally influenced thoughts of how things were “supposed” to be.
And if I may speak to the women for just a moment here, we need to remember we are often fincially self-sufficient.
We need to get rid of this idea of a man as a financial provider and change this to that of one true partner.
Allow the balancing strengths to fall outside the gender norms
To where they naturally form
The goals is to complement each other
And support one another through the storms
So take a little closer look at his heart, soul and mind
Discover someone who is truly gentle and kind
For that is worth more than any gold mine
Update: I recently read the findings of Dr Gottman’s extensive research on married couples. His major finding – kindness and generosity were the two most important factors in determining whether a marriage would stay together.
Check out the article here: https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.theatlantic.com/amp/article/372573/